“I’m falling out of love.”
This one-liner phrase can break a heart thousand times and destroy a happy family. Yes, you heard that right. Would you still wait for the day that your other half to tell you this phrase?
Whether you feel you’re losing time for your spouse recently or just want to let her know ‘again’ how much they mean to you, these tips will help you keep the intimacy alive;
1. Work hard together on your shared dreams, but mainly prioritize each other more than what your goals are.
Right at the onset of marriage, couples are more likely to make their own plans regarding their own future together along the way. When some of the conflicts that they are experiencing start to become unbearable, couples tend to drift away from each other. They eventually abandon their plans in life. In order to prevent the potential separation, you may write down your dreams together. Discuss and at the same time, work together in them regularly without neglecting that the most significant thing is not your achievements of your own dreams, but you still have each other when everything fails.
2. Have time to find out your own spouse’s love and then express it consistently to him or her.
The author of the famous “The 5 Love Languages” and marriage counsellor for over 30 years, Dr. Gary Chapman, popularized the phrase “love language” this mean a way of expressing as well as interpreting love namely: words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, gifts, and touch. There is a need for married couples to remember that happy marriage starts when they marry the ones they love. It blossoms when you love the one you marry.
3. Give, give, and give until it hurts.
Most people say that every relationship is a give-and-take deal. The conflicts on the other hand start when one already demands for the partner to give back as much as he or she has invested in the relationship. Would not it be better of both find ways to give, give, and give each other without even expecting anything in return? Bear in mind that genuine love is surely evident if expressed through one’s generosity beyond one’s own comfort zone.
4. The words have the great power to bring death or life in relationship, so use them wisely.
When intense argument happens, you should never use generalization such as “You always. . . “. Always be specific on what you really do not like about your own spouse’s attitude or habit. Never bring out the past. Just focus on the current issue. Be generous enough with praise. Affirm the good traits of your spouse to your own friends when he or she could hear you.
5. Agree how your own home would be managed and who would have the “which” roles.
There is a need to stereotype what a woman or man does not always work most especially in the changing times. There are families in which wife is the breadwinner while husband is the one who takes charge of the household chores. In order to lessen the conflict of interest or priorities, there is a need that the couple should agree on who does “what” in either in or out of your house.
More importantly, explore together your sexual fantasies. (It works most of the time)!