Of all genres in silver screen, pornography is considered as the most complicated. However, new research found out it can also benefit and harm at the same time, especially to the married couples. To understand it better, here are the pros and cons of watching it;

Pros:

  • It can provide you more sexual ideas to spice up your ‘sexy time.’

These days, lots of couples add porn on their must-watch list. Why? Simply because this can be an excellent way to increase the thrill and arousal while making love. Not only that, but they can also get ideas from it on how to introduce sexual repertoire.

  • It promotes sexual and emotional intimacy.

David Schnarch, a Colorado-based psychologist and author of the book Resurrecting Sex: Solving Sexual Problems and Revolutionizing Your Relationship, he explained that a crucial part of their work in assisting married couples is to establish a deeper connection via erotic images. Their fantasies and erotica can come handy to help them be better than ever. It can’t be denied that fantasies play a critical part in healthy sex life.

By that, porn just supplements to the storehouse of sensual scenarios in our mind. This can encourage the couples to be more creative in hitting the sack.

Cons:

  • This may cause your wife/husband to withdraw from what you have since he/she receives gratification instantly from his or her illusions.
  • Once your significant other watch porn, somehow you may feel insulted. Then, you take it deeply, thinking that what you’re giving are not good enough. This form a wedge in your relationship.
  • In some instances, porn can take away the natural spark you see from your spouse while having sex. This makes it difficult for you and your partner to view sex as a means of expressing love. In other words, porn can reduce sexual satisfaction.
  • While it does not happen all the time, porn may become an addiction. This is the time where it becomes a distraction with your hobbies, work, etc.
  • Viewing porn frequently (and masturbation) can affect the ability of a man to get a pleasurable experience between the sheets. In fact, they may even suffer from erectile dysfunction or difficulty in maintaining an erection.
  • Finally, this can cause excessive shame, guilt or other bad emotions because of current religious beliefs, religious upbringing, and even family values.

What to do?

Open communication will work best in discussing this topic. Make sure to talk about it with honesty and trust. Don’t try to accuse each other or else, you’ll just end up arguing intensely. Most sexual therapist out there advice that couples shouldn’t try to interfere or even force each other into watching offensive materials. Respect it is!

On the other side, when you both agreed to watch porn, never try to compare yourself to individuals who play on these films. Remember, your relationship is better than what these ‘stars’ are trying to portray. You’re trying to deepen your sexual connection with your spouse, not to copy gymnast-like sexual moves.

 

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